Why Can’t I Do What It Takes To Lose Weight?

Are you ready to finally lose weight? Change the relationship you have with your body image? Achieve the health you’ve always wanted?

Hello, my name is Coach Emmie, owner of Blissfully Healthy Women’s Wellness Center, where I specialize in helping women break free from emotional eating so that they finally lose weight that has plagued them for so long.

I have been in your shoes. I overcame emotional eating and becasue of that I released over 50 pounds.  I know the pitfalls of trying to lose weight and being unsuccessful. And, especially understand the ins and outs of overcoming emotional eating. Since releasing the weight, I’ve dedicated my life to helping other women who struggle with their weight to achieve the same results!

Where do you start in order to have a breakthrough in wellness and emotional eating so you can lose weight?

In my experience of coaching hundreds of women over the past 8 years, one of the first things that creates a breakthrough is loving yourself. OK, before you click “delete” let me explain a little more.

I know what you are thinking, “How can I love myself the way I am now? I am so overweight and I hate my body! There is no way I would love myself the way I am now, besides if I allow myself to love me now then I fear I will just be even more out of control!”

I understand. I get you. I know this step maybe very scary for you. The truth is that YOU CAN’T HATE YOURSELF THIN. Hating yourself actually keeps you stuck in unhealthy habits, emotional eating and not having the desire to do the healthy things like: making healthier food choices and moving your body. What you need is a little relief, comfort and acceptance. So that is where we start in overcoming and breaking through emotional eating!

How do you begin to love yourself even before you lose weight?

I have just the thing to help you bridge the gap from hating yourself to loving yourself. Most women honestly are not able to go from hating to loving themselves overnight, even when they do lose weight. So, in order to breakthrough the self-hate and body shaming thoughts, we start with baby steps. Your first baby step is acceptance.

If you can’t feel love for yourself start with acceptance. Start with accepting who you are now and where you have been. If you don’t feel willing to accept yourself the way you are now, today, start with PARTS of you. Make a list every day of three things you accept about yourself—your features or your character. This will start re-training your brain to look more towards the positive. Start giving yourself a little relief so that your desire to do the healthy things: eat better, move more will start to flow again.

Once you are grounded in acceptance then move to liking yourself or liking parts of you. Then the liking yourself easily transforms to loving yourself!

You see this journey HAS to be built of unconditional love for yourself, the you you are now, today, instead of hate or conditional love. What you have been doing has not worked. Hating yourself has not worked, in fact if you are like many of the women I work with in private coaching the hating yourself may actually be causing you to be more emotional and then to want to emotional eating more and thus causing you to gain weight! The hating yourself is keeping you stuck in emotional eating and causing weight gain.

Let go of the hate and body shaming. Start accepting the you that you are right now…the you that you are today. Because, you are enough and lovable just the way you are. Stop the self-hate. Start accepting yourself. Let go of the emotional eating. Let go of the extra weight.

The journey to your personalized weight solution is an inside job. Your breakthrough has to be based in being kind to yourself and eventually truly loving who you are no matter your size or weight. That unconditional love for your self helps you stay willing to do the healthy behaviors that lead to your goal health and weight.

Here is an example: 

Just for today I accept:

  1. I have curly blonde hair.
  2. That I have beautiful blue eyes.
  3. I have cankles and I accept them! I am grateful for my cankles, because I will never have ankle problems because they are strong!

Give yourself this gift. Take just one baby-step forward. What are your 3 things you accept about yourself? Take a moment to write yours down now.

Are you thinking about discovering if wellness coaching can help you lose weight?

I invite you to contact me. Together we will discover if coaching is the right fit for you to achieve a Blissfully Healthy Life. With personalized coaching from a women’s-only coach and community who understands the same issues you do, you can finally LET IT GO! Release the extra weight and unhealthy behaviors. Finally find something that you can stick with and achieve real results!


Have a Blissfully Healthy Day!

With Love Always,   Coach Emmie

Emmie Anne Love

Coach Emmie is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach specializing in personal and group coaching services for women who want to lose weight and maintain a healthy weight.

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